One of the questions you probably ask yourself regularly. Sometimes at important, life-changing moments, but sometimes on a random Wednesday afternoon. Or when you're lying on a beach lounger in Italy: How do I find out what I really want?

How much this question affects your life depends on how long you've been ignoring this feeling. Because the question always keeps coming back, no matter how hard you push it away.

I believe we have a life to live here that fully fits who we truly are. Simple as that.

Figuring out what you truly want is a combination of 3 factors:

1. Discovering what you're already good at
2. Determine what is truly important to you
3. Integrating small steps into your daily life

Let's go over them: Discover what you truly want in 3 steps

Discover your unique strength – where are your superpowers

Part of figuring out what you want is already inside of you. The good news is that you don't have to start from scratch.. The most challenging part is then figuring out what this precisely is.

Reflection is needed for that. Because very often we don't see our own blind spots. We don't always see our superpowers, because they are so self-evident to us.

Always being able to say the right things in a conversation? Anyone can do that. Always coming up with the most innovative ideas in a meeting? Every brain works like that. Always approaching everything with structure and focus? Yes, you've always done that.

This way, we can quickly dismiss our superpowers as ‘taken for granted’. And that's exactly the beauty of it. It's also self-evident for you. Because hey: finding out what you *really* want doesn't have to be a difficult or heavy process at all. It can also be light, full of joy.

You can seek reflection in a way that suits you: through practical assignments, asking for concrete feedback from your environment, and creating an overview. There are various methods that can work, so it's mainly finding an important one that works for you.

Figure out what's truly important to you – how do you find that out?

The first step is discovering what you truly want, is a form of soul-searching. Soul-searching, in essence, is about looking for everything that already exists. Yet, discovering what you truly want also requires making a choice. Because you can keep searching forever for all that already exists, at some point you also need decisiveness.

Determining what is truly important involves several components, but one of the most crucial is having clarity about your values. Your values are both your direction and your fuel. They provide direction to create a life that increasingly aligns with your values, and they also give you energy to act from your values. Thus, the cliché proves true: it's not about the destination, but about the journey.

This is how you can imagine that a life where the values of family, love, and attention are central is different from a life that is about adventure, freedom, and discovery.Your values can also be the solution to what feels like a ‘nagging’ feeling in your life. For example, I worked in the financial services industry for a period where I didn't feel I belonged. When I evaluated it afterwards, I realized I was missing my two most important values: freedom and creativity. And I only found out afterwards, but how powerful is it to know what's really important to you before you start working somewhere?.

Implement small steps in your life – the power of step by step

Once you've clarified what your superpowers are and what's truly important to you, that's when it really begins. Because honestly: This step will make the difference. Many people know deep down what they truly want, but find it very difficult to take action. It can feel overwhelming: the difference between where you are now and where you'd like to be.

The secret is to take small steps. To have absolute clarity on where you want to go and then define manageable steps. For example, to give attention to your values every day. Step by step, create more space for your qualities, talents, dreams, and much more. This is what we call life design: how do you design your life so that it perfectly suits who you are?

Do you finally want to discover what you truly want?

Then join the Reconnect program. Reconnect is an online program where you'll work with the question: what do I really want? Through practical exercises, inspiring videos, and challenging questions.

You combine all your assignments in your YOU-print, so you have an overview of your values, dreams, qualities, and much more on a single A4 sheet. This makes it much easier to make choices that truly suit you, and that provides peace, clarity, and energy.